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No matter who you are, what you do or how much money you make, this statement holds true to everyone. The AMOUNT of stress you endure during your wedding process is entirely up to you. With some dedicated research and allot of family support, you can reduce the stress and actually have a great deal of fun planning the wedding of your dreams.
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I've always Been an avid reader and an overachiever at organization, my goal was to be ready for any question or idea that a prospective client could possibly propose. I've purchased and read every book I could get my hands on relating to event coordinating of weddings, themes, etiquette, traditions, psychology, customs and unique ideas. The more I read, the more I realized that they all had one common denominator, the message was very clear and simple...Plan the wedding that YOU my client wants!. No what your mother-in-law, Martha Stewart, or Miss Wedding Etiquette would want on your money. Do what is going to make you and your fiancée happy. Focus on your dreams. It's your day and you deserve to have happy memories.

Don't hesitate to ask family members or close friends if you can rely on their talent and experience for assistance. Does your sister or brother have excellent penmanship? Ask for help with addressing envelopes and invitations. Did your cousin Rebecca have a trusted friend who worked as a cater? Ask for advice with the food coordination or referrals. In most cases they will feel honored you trusted them to help make your day special. The flip side by not asking is they may feel offended. The more delegating you do, the less overwhelming your details will seem.

When you decide on a theme or idea you want for your wedding...DO IT! Don't worry if Aunt Grace is appalled because you've decided to marry on Clearwater Beach wearing a grass skirt. This is your day. Of course you want your guests to be comfortable and have fun, so keep the activities legal and moral.

Most importantly, qualify and book your vendors as early as you can, the more time you have to research facilities and vendors, the better your odds you're going to get the person you want. Thus saving you the possible embarrassment of taking second, third and sometimes fourth choices. And what's more stressful than worrying if you should have chosen the experienced full-timer over the cheaper less experienced vendor!

If the stress of planning an event seems overwhelming and you're fearful you may burst into tears, consider hiring vendors with a minimum of ten years experience. Experience teaches you to handle the details, relieving clients of the hassles and stress. Hiring qualified and experienced vendor will enable you to relax and not be afraid of them taking over your day. The true professional team of vendors will coordinate every detail according to your exact specifications. Be as honest as possible. Tell them exactly what your ideas, expectations and limits are so they can fulfill your every desire.

Why is planning stressful?
One of the largest causes of wedding stress is trying to keep up with social and personal expectations. Trying to mesh your ideas of a perfect wedding while also trying to "follow the rules" and trying to keep up with family members' and friends' ideas of what you're perfect wedding should entail is certainly a very stressful task. The problem is more apparent when your planned wedding doesn't follow the rules and doesn't fit in with the vision that friends or family members have.

One of the best ways to combat this particular stress, is to realize that no wedding will satisfy every guest, and neither will it follow every rule. While it is a gracious thing to ask guests how they might feel about something you are unsure about, it doesn't mean that you must follow every suggestion. You don't need to follow the bridal magazines or etiquette books to the letter either. These items are intended as guides rather than gospel.

Another cause of stress in wedding planning is the quest for perfection. All couples want their wedding to match their view of a perfect event. Though this seems like a minor cause of stress, many couples take their quest too far. Unfortunately, while in the midst of matching the shoes to the tablecloths to the bouquets, you'll start to feel a bit overwhelmed.

Feeling overwhelmed is normal and so is trying your best to make the wedding day "perfect". However, you need to be willing to let a few things go. Figure out which items are less important to you and allow yourself to either delegate those items or ignore them if they aren't necessary. Another suggestion along the same vein is to remember that, as a couple, there will be two views to consider. Be willing to compromise so that both of you will be able to realize the elements of a "perfect" wedding that are most important to you.

Who's in control?
Control is a big issue and one that can't always be avoided. Whether it's because of monetary concerns or because of "keeping the peace", control of the planning process is often a responsibility of someone other than the couple. This can cause stress in many different ways and manners. This is also an issue that causes problems in other areas, such as: family relations, feeling left-out, communication, and so on.

While this is often unavoidable, there are ways to minimize the impact of a shift of control. Angry confrontation is not the answer and will only cause further problems. A situation such as this one can be handled in three different ways. In the first way, communication is the key. Calmly and rationally explain what you are feeling to the person who has taken control of the planning. Don't accuse and don't "point fingers"

The only way this will work is if you can stay calm and be rational. If this doesn't work, there is a second way. You can try to compromise. Some things will be more important to you. You can compromise on other issues in order to retain those items that are most important to you. The third way is to turn over control. Whether you want to do this or not depends on a number of factors, but is often the best choice when nothing else seems to work. This suggestion may work well, but often leads to other problems once the wedding is over and the marriage begins.

Trying to gauge how guests might react is another big stress factor. People are unpredictable and it's often impossible to wade through all the details of their relationships, views and so on. Some guests may be in the middle of a family feud, some guests may disagree with others, and some may even refuse to speak with another guest. All of the peculiarities and personalities of your guests combined, can cause a lot of stress especially when you are trying to figure out who should sit where and with whom. One of the worst manifestations of this type of problem is when one guest refuses to attend because you've invited another.

Honesty is the best policy.
Be honest with yourself and with your guests. You don't need to play the role of mediator. The problems that your guests have with one another is not your problem, it is their problem. In some cases, problems such as these are easily solved by calmly explaining to these particular guest that you would like them to be civil to one another during your wedding day. In other cases, it gets more complicated. If one guest refuses to attend because of the presence of another, you have two options. You can tell them that you will miss them and wish they didn't feel this way or you can invite them and not invite the other guest. This type of situation is stressful no matter which decision you make, and neither decision may be ideal in your situation, but either way, the problem will be taken care of. Throughout all of it, remember that you are not to blame in any way, for rifts between your guests.

Bored? That's not unusual.
Being bored or uninterested in the wedding planning is also a cause of wedding stress. There will be times when you feel as if you really don't want to keep up the work involved in planning your wedding. You may feel "blah", uninterested, bored or even annoyed. This usually occurs when you're in the process of checking a little detail and it seems like the hundredth time you've done so. Sometimes, you are the middle of a planning "lull" where nothing seems to be getting done and nothing seems to need taken care of.

Feeling bored or restless while in the midst of planning is absolutely normal. You may also feel resentful, scared or angry. All of these emotions are normal as well. A wedding is one of the few things that take months or years to plan. Within this time period, you will encounter a number of different emotions and feelings. You may wonder whether all the effort is worth it or may even feel like giving up. After a few months, it may feel like a burden. One of the best ways to combat these feelings is to take a week (or day if you're close to the date) off. Don't mention the word wedding, don't watch "wedding" related movies and so on. Take some time out to nurture yourself and your relationship.

In conclusion.....
This article touches on some of the most common situations and causes of stress that you will face while planning your wedding. There are many more situations that will cause you stress. Below are the main tips scattered throughout this article which will help you to deal with these situations as they arise.

Remember that no wedding is perfect.
Remember that you can't please everybody.
Be willing to compromise.
Delegate responsibility where possible.
Remain calm and rational when faced with stress.
Communicate effectively (without anger).
People are unpredictable
You are not to blame for problems that your guests have.
Be honest with yourself and your guests.
You don't need to be a mediator between guests.
There are some things that you can not control.
A wedding takes a long time to plan.
A variety of emotions are normal during the planning process.
Take time out for yourself.
Take time out for your relationship.

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